girl CRAZY

Tis sad. My boys are growing up.

AND, although they used to only have 'hearts in their eyes' for mom.

I feel a shift.

Apparently, their hearts will not be mine forever.

Well, not ALL mine, anyway.

I'm not sure I will ever be willing to share, but just in case... I thought I'd write down some 'sage' or in my case, 'lavender' advice for the future.




The girls you date are the girls you marry. Do not date girls you would not marry.

Making sure you are married in the temple is the single most important goal you should have in your life at this point.

If you EVER trust me on anything I say, trust me on this one thing.



Watch what she does and not what she says. THAT is what is real.



Don't pick a girl who can't get her hair wet, or will not roll down the windows in case it messes up her hair. Take a pass on this 'set' of chicks. High maintenance = drama.

Make sure she can think for herself. Hear an alarm if she ALWAYS agrees with you.



It seems so 'old school' I know, but if she doesn't know how to at least bake a cake by college, you can plan on a lot of take out and a crappy physical in your 40's.

Any woman worth her salt should be able to make 1 killer 'show off' dinner .



Don't choose a girl who is so close to her parents she can't be close to you. If she goes to her parents about your arguments while dating, be careful. Women work things out with their men, girls go to daddy.

Find a girl who accepts, loves and unconditionally owns her own identity. If she is whole and you are whole, its magic. If she is broken and you are whole, it is management.



Notice if she 'nurtures'. Does she like to watch things grow? Does she care if a dog drools on her? If so, steer clear. Life is messy and I don't care how 'modern' and forward women's roles get. Most women mother, eventually. Choose a nurturer.

Look for passion. Girls that hummmmmmm while eating dessert make for delicious companions.

Watch how she treats other people. Volumes of truth about who she is in that.



Make sure she loves the Lord.

Make sure she loves YOU.

but......

NOT YET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

....don't go CRAZY just yet.......

You are still mine for now :)

Self Centered

There are two types of folk on the planet.

Givers and Takers

Think about it for a second. Its true.


Other forces will take until there is nothing left. They will not stop. Ever.

Unless, I protect. Center.

I have finally learned that the only one who will protect me is ME.

I don't have endless energy. I just don't. I am going to stop handing it out so freely and irresponsibly. I am writing this for me. To remind me to protect my 'center' and leave something for myself.

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Even if it looks 'self centered' to someone else.

"I AM" instead of "I DID"

There is an hour until the last weigh in on Maple Valley Biggest Loser.

Here is what I was thinking:

Wake up go running for as long as I possibly can, drink no water, eat no food, go to the wc as much as I can until 11 am...... = nutso

Here is what I am doing instead: ate my fav yogurt, drank plenty of water, spent time reflecting on this journey, and am going for a nice happy run on my way to the weigh in..

BECAUSE "I AM" instead of "I DID"

Here is what has happened. I have permanantely changed how I think and what I do in the column in my brain called 'weight management'.

This is not 'JUST WHAT I DID' for 12 weeks. Its is now "WHO I AM" instead.

I feel different, and well, and whole, and ready for more...

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one for every pound :)

so far that is...