You LOOK nice today, but ARE YOU?
More often than not, I am troubled by the word 'nice'.
She is SOOOO 'nice'. He is SOOOOO 'nice'. THEY are SOOOOOO 'nice'.
N.I.C.E.
That word gives me a HHHhhhmmmmmm........ mid sentence/typing/thinking.....
Hmmmm....
I will tell you right now, I do not think I am very 'nice'.
I choke on 'nice'.
Let me tell you why before you say, "I always knew she was a hater...."
I know a ton of people who say, "No offense, but.....", "I'm not trying to be mean but......"
"She is NICE, but......"
OR
Does being 'nice' require you to shroud everything you say and or do with a preface of its 'niceness' qualifier? Does that actually work?
Actually, it does. You can say, "That was not my intention" which is the adult way of saying,
"I DIDN'T MEAN TO....."
and get off the hook ~
happens a lot
What if you are 'acting NICE' but really FEEL mean?
If you are speaking from a 'fake' or saccharin posture....
Is it actually a way of being 'NICE' or is it a way of being clever/false/disingenuous?
I'm actually pretty sure it does not 'COUNT' if your viseral meanness and your intent do not match your visible efforts. Yet, if we all really truly expressed our discontent and judgement verbally, we would be fairly honest, and frankly
MEAN
It is best we keep that stuff to ourselves. It is. We should not have a license to harm for 'honesty' sake alone. I'm not sure I want NO FILTERS out there. We need the edit button in action. I do.
Yet, I'm still confused. Mostly, because I don't think I qualify as someone you would call,
"Nice"
I am generous, I am willing to serve, I am a hard worker, I am kind, I am good at sharing myself,
I am a thousand other adjectives
except for
NICE
I've worried over that a lot. I examine it daily.
I've spent a lot of years handing out cookies, and baking bread, and offering....
Don't get me wrong
I am a thoughtful person
but...
I wasn't raised by 'nice' people.
No offense Mom and Dad, but.....
SEE HOW EASY THAT WAS?????? Lol!
Fact is, my parents were, most of the time, completely unaware of others.
Both uniquely eccentric and self involved, they did not model
'NICE'
That does not mean that as an adult I do not know how to act nice.
I do.
Its just the ACTING part I struggle with ...
And yet, if I am really being my genuine self, I will probably end up doing things like:
Telling you the truth when you ask my opinion
(don't want the truth, don't ask me, ask someone 'nice')
Laughing at someone else's foibles
(life is funny! especially when something unexpected happens!)
Pinching or punching or popping you in the arm
(i'm like that, i will whop ya)
Playing a prank on you
(ice water in the shower, polish on your toenails on april fools day, goofing with your phone)
These are things I am POSITIVE
"Nice"
people would never do.
Told to "disguise" these, so nobody would know what they were.... this was the result.
If I was 'nice' I would be 'sad' if this was embarrassing to that person.
I'm not,
so I just think
it is
HILARIOUS
My question today is really one thing....
"Can you be perfectly 'nice' and still have a decent personality?
What do you think?
