Saturday "I" mowed the yard
I asked Adam to start the lawnmower.
I asked Marc to find the gas can for the refill.
I asked Carter how to unload the bag.
I don't usually mow the yard.
Most of the time Marc or the boys do it.
So, I stink at it.
Saturday, I finally figured it out.
My opinion is that it is much more enjoyable than say, 'scrubbing toiteys'.
I will definitely do it again, now that I know how.
(Cool aside is that my arm is strong enough to yank the cord and make it work. Woot! Woot!)
My observation d'jour is about the repeated excuse,
"Never mind, you know how men are..."
The part I have issue with is the, "Ugh, I'll just do it myself, they can't do it."
I'm going to throw down the
BULL CRAP
flag
today.
Its just NOT TRUE. They can do ANYTHING we can do.
And, while it is true, that I am completely certain they are physically stronger and have zero problem with that. My beef is with the women in their lives, who give them this 'pass' to be emotionally incapable. "Guys don't think like that".
Well....
I don't usually mow, but I figured it out.
SO
CAN
THEY
Yet, there are those of my sex who feel embarrassed to even suggest they try or:
'duckheadinshame'
'heavenforbid'
A.
S.
K.
You have to ask for what you need from men and boys. You have to allow them to develop a side to them that for the most part is illogical and ineffectual at actually producing (which is their focus). Instead, provide a perspective very necessary to develop fully as a competant family member.
If you are more intuitive than your spouse. Point things out for them.
If you are more thoughtful of other's feelings... help your spouse see the affect their words have.
If you are more selfless and they are more selfish. For honk sakes, tell them.
(I am not saying turn into a bloomin' NAG-A-HOLIC', because I promise you they will dial you out ASAP. No, just try to verbalize what it is that you really need. Speak.
I don't understand the posture some women take where the men in their lives have a 'get out of jail free card' for all actions in the sensitivity category.
Lame.
If they are not naturally inclined to notice
SHOW THEM
Show them where the pull cord is, where the gas goes, and how to make a turn without gouging the corners. Don't be ashamed that you need things they don't.
You still need it, don't you?
So, take your pride,
POKE IT IN THE EYE
AND...
Help them figure it out.
They ARE capable
They WANT to help
Today, I just want to say
LET THEM
I want my boys to be men who are capable of handling all frustrations and stresses in life with dignity and vigor. I want them to know when they have crossed a line and need to move back and start over. I want them to be 'other's centered' and not self centered. I will not allow behavior that is poor to permeate my home because.
'BOYS WILL BE BOYS'
Really?
Well, then....
'GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS,
AND IF THEY NEED TO HELP THE BOYS FIGURE STUFF OUT,
THEN, WELL,
THAT'S
OKAY
TOO.'
Put your big girl boots on ladies and TEACH the men in your lives to be
emotionally present and available and aware and considerate and selfless
AND ALL THAT OTHER STURF WE NEED
Otherwise they may awaken to a lawn with tall tall grass they don't have the proper tools to get out of. Stuck, they are, just wondering, "Why is she so upset about all this grass?"
Gas=Educate
Throttle=Inform
Pull Cord\=Be honest
Push=Follow through
Happy Mowing Ladies
